This emotion-filled blog – which took about eight hours to write in July 2018 – has been removed.

My husband spread his misery far enough. I won’t promote it further.

I do recommend this book (shown below). It’s the best thing on this topic that I’ve found.

And if you do encounter someone lost in trauma, remember these three steps:

1) Show up. Be a presence.

2) Shut up. Be a quiet presence.

3) Don’t cheerlead. Just listen and don’t talk, except to say, “I love you, and I’m here with you.”

This is the best book I've seen on this topic.

This is the best book I've seen on this topic.

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Phenomenal book - I have read it cover to cover.

Phenomenal book - I have read it cover to cover.