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What’s Next?

Teddy the Dog turned 10 in late October. I turned an age “greater than 10 years old” this summer. We’re both feeling like it’s time for a change, but not sure what that change is going to look like.

In late August, I had a health issue that consumed three months of my life. I have a new understanding of how every single priority in your life can be reshuffled in a moment when two doctors (in two separate opinions) tell you something scary.

I’m happy to report that now, three months later, it’s resolved - thanks be to God. Prayer brought about a dramatic change in my physical condition that left medical professionals scratching their heads and saying, “I don’t know what happened here and I can’t explain it, but you’re well now.”

Prayer also brought about a dramatic change in my spiritual and emotional state, and that’s the bigger miracle.

To God be the glory.

The spiritual transformation put the whole “Wayne Mess™” in razor sharp focus. Again, thanks to the infinite grace of God, I was gifted the spiritual energy to forgive him, and also given the spiritual stamina to forgive him every day.

He made his choices and he has the whole of eternity to ponder the consequences. That’s all between Wayne and his Creator now. I’m out of the loop.

Throughout our marriage and even after his death, I felt spiritually responsible for him. My “encounter with the divine” helped me see clearly that this is a devilish trick. As adults, we’re spiritually responsible for ourselves and for no one else.

I still think about him a lot, but these thoughts no longer eviscerate me. That’s the grace of God showing up in my heart, mind and soul. I’m sure of it.

And what’s next?

A dear friend suggested that I become a home inspector. I’m seriously considering that. I’m also contemplating a move out of this area (southeastern Virginia) and into the Midwest. There are just too many memories here in Hampton Roads.

This I know: It’s time for some new scenery and some “unexpected delights”!

For those of you who have prayerfully supported me, I am immensely grateful. Now, I hope to discern God’s wisdom in moving forward.


Teddy asked for a golf cart so that she can enjoy her "walkies" in a comfy ride.


Id like to enjoy however many years of the remainder of my life.

I yearn to see more of the beauty in this world. I hope my next home has views like this. There's something about the quietude of nature that soothes my soul. (This photo was taken during an early morning bike ride in Northern Suffolk, about a mile from my home.)



In 2002, I posed with my dear friend Donna at her bookstore in Carlinville. That was 16 years ago. Thus began a friendship that endured through three husbands (one of hers and two of mine), nine books, and a lot of good times. Donna passed on shortly before Thanksgiving, but the memory of her unconditional love will last forever.


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  1. Robin Untz
    November 26th, 2018 at 10:39 | #1

    So happy to hear you are feeling better physically and mentally.

    What a journey you have been on. But finally you can start your next adventure. A new place and a new occupation maybe just what you need.

    You would make a great home inspector, not enough women in the field. God Bless You!

  2. Jenny
    November 26th, 2018 at 13:36 | #2

    Rose’s Home Inspection Service…ensuring your new home isn’t a thorn in your side!

    I’m glad things are looking up for you. May you find health and happiness where ever you land.

  3. terry sharp
    November 26th, 2018 at 13:58 | #3

    Do you ever come back to Alton? I would love to get you lined up to do a lecture here for the Alton Area Landmarks Association.

    Let me know when you will be around.

    Terry Sharp
    618 463 5761

  4. Dale Wolicki
    November 27th, 2018 at 00:38 | #4

    I am very sorry about your friend Donna passing.

    She provided you with support and comfort whenever needed and I know you enjoyed your visits with her immensely.

  5. November 28th, 2018 at 09:21 | #5

    @Dale Wolicki
    Dale, thanks for understanding. Donna was one-in-a-billion, and easily one of the most amazing women I’ve ever encountered.

    During my frequent trips to the St. Louis area in these last three years, I always stayed at her home. I cried too many times to count while she hugged me and reminded me that she loved me, and that she thought I was a remarkable woman. She was my #1 cheerleader. I miss her so much already.

    Thanks for the kind words.

  6. December 15th, 2018 at 11:27 | #6

    I suspect there are many more Sears homes waiting to be discovered along the rail line south and west of St. Louis. ;-)

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